The Secret To Moving Beyond Insecurity

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Insecurity shows up in many different ways, shapes and forms in our lives. 

It’s the quest for power when we feel out of control

It’s the search to be included when we feel like a misfit.

It’s the self-doubt that hammers when we feel inadequate.

It’s the constant ambition to succeed more when we feel like a failure.

Throughout our lives, insecurity comes in all shapes and sizes and torments most of us. In fact, I don’t know anyone who has never wrestled on some level with insecurity. So in light of that, breathe. Don’t feel guilty. All of us have at one time or another felt the pangs of insecurity. We want to be confident people, yet life circumstances often upend our confidence and leave us toppled over in a pit of uncertainty. 

The disciples must have felt insecure as Jesus began talking more and more about leaving them. That certainly wasn’t their plan. They thought Jesus was coming as the Messiah to set up His earthly kingdom and overthrow the Romans. Yet, Jesus said, “But very truly I tell you, it is for your good that I am going away. Unless I go away, the Advocate will not come to you; but if I go, I will send him to you” (John 16:7). 

Jesus knew He was near the end of His earthly ministry. In mere hours, He would be beaten and falsely accused and hung from a cross. He knew He would resurrect and ascend to heaven, and His plan was to leave changing the world to His ragtag followers. The disciples didn’t understand what was going on, and insecurity was definitely rising in each of them. 

Jesus, however, gave them the secret to moving beyond their insecurity. He told them “abide in Me” (John 15). Friend, that remains the secret to moving past our insecurity. Our focus has to be a tight connection with Jesus. What does this look like in your and my life? 

Making the Secret Practical

Slow Down. The branch simply rests in and relies on the vine (John 15:5). Learn to live life in rhythm with Jesus and in sync with the Holy Spirit. True confessions; this is hard for me. I live with a continual undercurrent of hurry in my soul. During the month of March, I’ve been focusing on simply abiding. In order to do that, I’ve had to slow down, even in my thoughts. I’ve focused on praying, “Lord, teach me to abide. Help me to let go of all the insecurity that drives me to hurry.” I encourage you to pray that prayer as well. 

Stop Comparing. Nothing stirs up insecurity like comparing. Here’s the thing, no branch on a vine compares itself to another branch worrying about which is more fruitful. When you simply make your focus abiding, the Holy Spirit pours fruitfulness through you. You don’t need to compare your fruit to another person’s fruit. You just keep your focus on staying tight with Jesus, and He’ll take care of the rest. 

Redefine Success. We are a success-driven culture. But what if success in this life was just living in close intimate fellowship with Jesus? What if we focused on simply abiding with Him rather than trying to always prove our significance. Friend, you are significant because God created you in His image and loves you. Learn to redefine what success is by simply keeping your heart focused on Jesus. Cultivate intimacy with Him. 

Friend, the next time insecurity comes knocking on your heart, pause and pray, Lord Jesus, I praise You that You are the vine and I am simply a branch. Thank You that I am bound to You eternally and that as I remain in You, You will produce the fruit of holy confidence in me. Remind me today that my job is to simply focus on abiding. 

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This week on The Connected Mom Podcast our guest is Patty LaRoche the wife of the baseball star, David LaRoche. We’re talking about finding joy after rejection.

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