Freedom From Performing: Grace In An Applause Driven World – Week 1

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“I am convinced that the basic cause of some of the most disturbing

emotional/spiritual problems which trouble evangelical Christians

is the failure to receive and live out of

God’s unconditional grace.”

David Seamands


Welcome to week one of our online Bible Study through Freedom From Performing: Grace In an Applause Driven World. If you joined me in December for Experiencing Emmanuel, I apologize for how long it took me to figure out the new system…but, since you’ve decided to start this Bible study with me, I know you’ll give me grace! And, I’m not feeling any pressure to perform! LOL! 

Seriously, I’m so glad you’ve decided to be a part of this study. One of the best ways to study Freedom From Performing is to go through the book with friends. Every Wednesday I’ll be posting a blog related to a chapter out of the book. I’ll ask you to read the chapter, complete the “Daily Dose of Grace” portion at the end of each chapter, and participate in our online discussion. Each week I’ll post some questions to get our discussion going. You can gather some girl friends and meet at Starbucks or in your home to discuss the concepts from Freedom, or you can simply check in each week and participate online. Our study will be 12 weeks long. If you miss one, don’t worry, I don’t want you feeling pressured or stressed out. Simply check in the following week, or catch up in between lessons. If you click on the “Continue Reading” link at the end of this introduction you’ll be able to leave a comment and participate.

Have you ever performed in a recital, or had a role in a play? Do you remember how nervous you felt knowing every eye in the audience was on you? I remember oh so well! I remember the joy of feeling successful in my sixth grade play, particularly because I received a lot of affirmation and applause afterward. But, I also remember how defeated I felt after a piano recital in which I was judged and didn’t rank as high as I thought I would. We are so prone to run after applause and affirmation, aren’t we? The problem is when that tendency to perform stifles our walk with Christ!

Chapter One  – Born to Perform

In chapter one, I wrote, “My Christian walk was a well-organized self-improvement course, except I wasn’t improving.” I felt afraid for others to know the “real me,” and so I often hid behind masks. As a result, I became a “performance-driven moralist rather than a grace-motivated Christ follower.” 

In Matthew 23:5-6, Jesus addressed the problem of performance. He said that the religious leaders were overly concerned with what others thought of them and that they often did good deeds only so that others would feel impressed and applaud. Performance-based Christianity leaves grace out of the picture. Many of us grew up in religious systems that gave us lots of rules to follow and warped our thinking about God. As a result, the temptation was to hide our true selves and develop a false self that we perceived looked better. The problem is that it is our “real” selves that God loves – He loves the messed up me! Jesus came for broken people that they might be redeemed to the Father and be made whole through His grace (John 1:17). He didn’t come for perfect people. Once we have received God’s grace we don’t have to wonder if we are ‘good enough’ for God. His grace tells us that we are fully known, loved, forgiven, empowered and pursued by God.

As we progress through this study we’ll be looking at the simple stories Jesus told. These parables each contain a glimpse of grace that will help us to internalize God’s grace more deeply.

For Next Week

  1. Read chapter one and complete the “Daily Dose of Grace” section.
  2. Leave a comment here and introduce yourself. 

Group Discussion – Answer one or more of the following questions and leave a comment

  1. Read the characteristics of the “performance-driven woman” on page 15. Share which of those characteristics describes your tendency to perform.
  2. What was your religious upbringing like?
  3. Write the following on an index card and tape it to your mirror:

“Grace tells me I am fully known, loved, forgiven, empowered and pursued by God.”

  1. If you really internalized God’s message of grace – how might your life change?
  2. Share your favorite truth from chapter one.


7 Responses

  1. Hi Becky,
    Kathy here! And so excited that you are up and running with this! I have a few friends that I think will join us!
    This book challenges me to the ‘inth’ degree! Thanks!

  2. Alice
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    Hi Becky,
    I am heading to B&N today to find the book and will contact “the girls” to see if they want to do it, too. Seeing as how I am in NC for several months (we are “snow-birding” and working here)it will be a great way to stay connected! Looking forward to it!

  3. Becky
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    Great to hear from you Kathy and Alice! Alice, if they don’t have it at Barnes and Nobles you can get it at And yes, I would love others to join as well!!

    Hugs to you both,

  4. Gayle
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    I am so glad you are doing this on line! I work full time and can’t go to the Wednesday morning study at the church! I know I have some other friends that will want to join in! Thanks Becky!!

  5. Laurel
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    I just saw this and was one who did the Advent study on my own. I am going to swing by B and N tomorrow and get this book so I can be part of this too!

  6. Oh Becky, I know you’ve already put up chapter 2 – but, I needed to process this chapter first.

    I could so relate to the description of the performance-driven woman on pg 15. I never really thought of myself as a perfectionist. I did strive for excellence, but felt that I was pretty lax in that whole area.

    But…I’m a pastor’s daughter, who grew up to be a pastor’s wife, raising 3 daughters. After 3 years of family counseling, and many hard conversations with my husband, daughters and God I realized that I was indeed a performance-driven woman. I was communicating to my girls, “be yourselves- just look good doing it when you are around church people- or the community- or lost people.”

    That’s not what I wanted to say- at all! But it was a message I perceived and grew up believing as truth. (and yes,I’ve been through REWRITING YOUR EMOTIONAL SCRIPT several times!!)

    I know that lie carried over into my relationship with God. I identified with Joanna Weaver’s quote- “Burdened with the weight of our own spirituality, we struggle beneath the load of self- imposed obligations.”

    I know I have been on the GRACE road to freedom for a while, but this chapter is massaging my heart to help me see ‘toxins’ that yet remain.

    Thanks Becky- for sharing out of your own journey so I could see mine for what it is.

    Now- I’ll go read chapter 2.

  7. Becky
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    Oh Kathy, thanks for your honesty!!! So many of us were raised to protect an image and brought that right into raising our own kids.

    Any one else relate?

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